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So I answered no, and a crapstorm erupted the likes of which I haven’t seen since I trashed Respect: A Musical Journey of Women. Seriously. cheap jordans in china One might think Nice People Theatre Company (NPTC), producers of this piece (it first appeared at the New York Musical Theatre Festival), would have been prepared for some dissenting opinion. I mean, The Little Mermaid, this ain’t. The show’s admirers (and there appear to be many) accuse me of dismissing the production on principle. I’d argue they’re doing the same with my review, and here’s why.
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Of course Gogerty didn’t set out to be an apologist for child abusers, but I do think she mishandles the topic. The film The Woodsman is marginally more successful because by the time it begins, Kevin Bacon’s pedophile Walter has already been judged and condemned, has been held personally responsible for his actions (despite whatever his backstory may be), and now must rebuild his life from its ashes. Gogerty presents Jerry as a sympathetic victim, a character who made a forgivable mistake, and that’s a huge problem. Were the production elements solid? Sure. Was the script well crafted? For the most part. Is it useful that NPTC has talkbacks cheap adidas after the show and partnered with CAPE? Amen. Can theater ask tough questions and further the cultural conversation? Hell, yeah. But can I endorse a concept and a musical that I find irresponsible and even dangerous? No way.
The part of this crapstorm that really fouls my airspace is that NPTC and Gogerty claim they wanted this show to be a catalyst for discussion, for “honest open dialogue” on the issue. This is the kind of response and dialogue that should be in the foreground. The First Amendment, Safety and Risk and Downright Dangerous art, Theater critics and non profit companies all of these discussions and debates are also extremely important if not imperative. But the impetus for sharing “Love Jerry” with Philadelphia is to spark the kind of discussion Gene has had the courage to introduce.
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Tell us please: Does a threatening phone call justify censoring a review? You do not need to see this show to have an opinion about this. It’s a question of free speech. I know where i draw the line. Where do you?
Again, I must disagree with you. I feel you have the ability to prove your point about choice without blatantly disrespecting the production. Just because I know what Rosebud means doesn’t mean I want to ruin Citizen Kane for everyone else in the world that hasn’t seen it.
I also disagree that you didn’t feel challenged by this show, or else you wouldn’t feel the need to defend your position so strongly. Now, I’m assuming here, but it seems like the problem begins in answering your three questions. What is the play’s goal? To ask a question. Whether or not it is a question you want to consider answering is up to you. Even if you feel it is utterly worthless, you are entitled to your opinion. You are welcome to live in a society that vilifies people who want to sexually abuse children. Cheap jordans I would rather not live in a society that includes people who want to sexually abuse children. By walking away from the question, the possibility that we might learn ways to stop things like this from ever happening are never explored, and that is far more terrifying to me than anything presented in the play.
I do apologize for not knowing the full story of NPTC’s request. I will keep my comments reserved for the play and your review from now on.
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I will begin by saying that I am NOT affiliated with NPT, and I did see the play, which sadly is more than I can say for many people throwing their opinions out here in internetland.
So, Wendy, let me understand. Someone from NPT called asked you, not your editors, to take down the review because they were scared of someone they believe misinterpreted their play because of your review, and you said no. That is perfectly understandable, and well within your rights as a journalist.
I get it. You didn’t like the play because you’re a parent. I also get that you feel insulted because they asked you to take down your piece. Your opinion, which you have repeated several times is that “it engages in a moral relativism that allows the audience to see molesting an 8 year old nephew as a forgivable offense right alongside as the cheap jordans free shipping commenters argue marital infidelity, alcoholism and cheating on a test.”
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I could watch this show again to be sure, but neither I nor my companions felt there was any indication of this play showing molestation as a forgivable offense. Discussion and exploration of horrible things should happen because rational human beings want to find out why such things occur and try to make sure they never happen again. To dismiss it as completely as you have is, in my opinion, seriously irresponsible as a journalist. To deny that your review has not dismissed the play is horribly puerile. I don’t expect at this point that you would possibly reconsider your opinion, but then again, what would be the point? How many people on cheap jordans shoes any of the other websites talking about this drama surrounding your review have never seen the play, nor will because they feel that you obviously know better than they how the mind of the playwright works, and why this play was written?
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